I was watching a home video of an interview with my Nanny. She was being asked a host of questions, including what she most wanted for her children – and without hesitation, she said confidently and with a great deal of love…
To be happy.
The pursuit of happiness at times gets a bad rap for being fake, selfish, or an ultimately futile goal. However, what could be more important than creating an atmosphere of positivity and balance in your own life, regardless of circumstances? How can you truly support others, or have the ability to make change in the world if you are not at peace yourself?
This past year my Telfer MBA team did a data analysis project on the Happy Planet Index (incredibly, US ranks in the lowest category of HPI, Canada is middle of the pack, while Mexico is one of the highest). We compared HPI to a large number of factors – including life expectancy rates, war deaths, alcohol consumption, etc – with little correlation. We came to the surprising conclusion that happiness is not heavily dependent on what is happening to and around you.
So what do happy people do differently than the rest of us? I plan to go on a mission to figure this out – and will be periodically updating you on my findings. I will pursue it, like I do any other goal, with tangible actions. I plan to try 3 different happiness tactics every quarter of 2015, and I invite you to join me! The tactics for January to March are as follows:
- Find 5 things you are grateful for everyday – This could be a morning reflection you whisper to yourself while rolling out of bed, or a journal entry on the good things that you remember from the day. The way you choose to recognize the 5 things is completely up to you, but the key thing is that it happens daily.
- Remove one negative thing from your life – Create some breathing space by letting go of something that is currently toxic. This could be an activity you no longer enjoy, an energy sucking relationship, or a self-destructive habit.
- Start meditating – I meditate every once in a while, but I want to make this an unshakable part of my daily routine. This can take as little as 5 minutes a day, so it is manageable for even the most packed schedule.
Make happiness a priority this next year with me, and improve not only your own life, but those close to you as well. Keep me updated on your experiences below!
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One idea had and do is to use all positive passwords….that way the positive thoughts are in front of you daily.
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What an innovative idea! I love it. Thanks for sharing.
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Laura, you chose a great resolution for this year! I noticed when I was in Mexico that the locals were always smiling and happy despite their poverty. I attribute this partly to the large amount of sunshine they are exposed to…I believe all that great energy boosts their “happy” genes!
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Sunshine, Vit D, and getting out in nature always lift my spirits. Thank you for sharing!
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Hi Laura, thanks for the follow. I so admire your positive spirit. I have always felt there is just one “trick” to living a full life…and that is to be happy.
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Beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your light.
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Hi Laura, Couldn’t agree with you more! Exactly my three resolutions as well 🙂 Just wanted to let you know I have moved my blog mitalikalra.com which you were following to rougelle.com. Hope to see you there 🙂
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So glad to hear it!
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This was a nice post. I enjoyed reading it. Considering the happiness I’ve been able to enjoy during the last two turbulent years, I can say from personal experience that happiness does not have to depend upon your outward circumstances. Thank you for being the first person to follow my initial attempt at writing a blog. I hope it encourages you. Thanks for sharing some positive thoughts with your blog.
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Wonderful insights!
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Happiness is a reasonable goal. I find that being grateful does a whole lot for improving our outlook on life.
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Gratefulness is a wonderful thing. Thanks for sharing!
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Thanks for sharing these wise words with us. Have a Happy New Year.
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Pleasure! Happy New Year to you also. Join with us?
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Happiness is what everyone should strive for. Thanks for reminding us all!
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So glad it touched you.
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Agreed!
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Thank you
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Getting what you want is success. Wanting what you have is happiness. Happiness is merely an exercise in contentment. Trouble is we live in a culture fueled by the exact opposite: covetousness.
I wish you the best in your quest!
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What wonderful insights! Thanks for your thought contribution.
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Aloha, Good Morning, and Happy New Year! Wonderful sharing, and I thought you might enjoy this article I published at about this time last year in Alternative Medicine magazine … http://www.alternativemedicine.com/alternative-medicine/features/7-colors-happiness It is “Seven Colors of Happiness.” 🙂
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Thanks for sharing Kai – can’t wait to read it!
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You are very welcome Laura! Please let me know if I can help! I would love to support or participate if needed! I look forward to your updates! 🙂
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Kai, it would be wonderful if you’d be interested in participating with me! Id love to hear your experiences.
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Aloha again! Please email me at Dr.Kai@TalkDoctors.com or text (808) 756-6900. Malama `ia oe ho`opena pule maika`a (have a wonderful weekend filled with many beautiful spells and dreams)! 🙂
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Great post. Have you seen the documentary film ‘Happy’? It comes to a similar conclusion as yours: ‘happiness is not heavily dependent on what is happening to and around you.’
We are free to be happy – yea! 🙂
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Beautiful! Im on a mission to track down the film, thanks for letting me know.
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You know what would bring happiness to the World? Compassion. You know what people live the most compassionately in this World? Ethical vegans. You know how many vegans there are estimated to be in worldwide? Less than 3% (even fewer ethical vegans). You know how many of them are ridiculed for their lifestyle? Most of them. (Ridiculed for being compassionate!)
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I certainly can relate, as I too am a vegan (first for compassionate reasons, followed by others such as environmental, global food scarcity etc). Investing in the words of those who ridicule is not productive, perhaps happiness may lay in finding compassion for those who have not made the connection yet. Spin the narrative.
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It is a beautiful concept, and your Nanny is lovely (as are you).
But, for a person who is deeply compassionate and empathic, how does one ever sustain happiness? To personally sustain happiness, mustn’t one turn a blind eye to the suffering of the World? Doesn’t being happy take a good deal of selfishness? My natural self is very buoyant, fun-loving, and upbeat. But, I can’t see being happy unless my existence was responsible for reducing suffering of others (like tens of thousands). And, as an individual, my efforts will never be able to keep up with the suffering caused by the pervasiveness of greed, violence, bigotry, entitlement, and overall social decay. Nor could my efforts along with every activist that I know. The scales are so far tipped, at this point — in spite of abundant opportunity for moral evolution. How can happiness prevail? The happier individuals become, the more the World (certainly the Earth) tends to suffer.
So, sustainable happiness? What’s the game plan? Seriously.
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Such sincere and worthwhile questions! Thank you for sharing your perspective. I’m trying to explore that over the next year. I am hopeful that happiness (or perhaps inner peace) does not need to conflict with compassion and action…
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I especially love the second action—to let something negative go. We sometimes are so focused on adding good things and doing moremoremore that we forget to get rid of the junk that weighs us down. Thanks for the reminder!
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So true! I’m guilty of adding too much, and so this resonated a lot with me.
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Every single day I thank God for just breathing without assistance. I recognize it by writing in my journal. I removed something negative, by never watching House Wives of Atlanta. There are far too many catty women in the world. I don’t need to waste time watching it on TV. I meditate on the little things we take for granted and I find the beauty in it.
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Wonderful, so glad to hear!
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Hi Laura, Thanks for visiting my blog. Enjoyed the blog on happiness but was surprised Mexico ranked high in its people being happy. That surprise comes from the fact so many of those happy people want to go to a country north of them where statistically the people seem to be so unhappy. Perhaps some of that happiness will seep out to the unhappy Americans. Thanks for sharing and have a HAPPY Christmas and New Year.
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Very interesting indeed!
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Great resolution and project!
Might I suggest one more, – make someone else happy, even just making someone smile really heightens my happiness quota.
Thanks for the follow! Merry Christmas!
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Claire – wonderful idea!
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Reblogged this on Crazy Cool and commented:
Perfect post for this time of year
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Thanks for sharing!
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p.s. In regard to the first happiness tactic for Jan-Mar, there’s a great place called GratitudeLog.com where you can log on daily to record what you are grateful for. Plus, there’s a great/grateful community of people there. I now have spiritual family in Germany, England, Australia, India, Bermuda and beyond.
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Amazing! I can’t wait to check it out.
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What synchronicity. I just got through watching what I thought was a great TED talk on “can money buy you happiness?”. Some of your readers may want to check it out. I plan on using it as a “tip” in my upcoming post at Evolution Made Easier…..
http://www.thetappingsolution.com/blog/make-yourself-happy-by-doing-this-one-thing/
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Moving from being anti-social with your money, to pro-social = AMAZING!
Great TED talk, really makes you think – Thank you Zirah for sharing and contributing to the conversation.
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Your article resonates with me. There’s just one thing that is often said to make people happy and that’s giving to others. Volunteering is one way to do this. Thanks for an interesting post.
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Great idea, Annie – I’ll add this to potential initiatives in the upcoming quarters!
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Being happy with what we’ve got is the simple, but often so difficult, key to happiness.
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I completely agree. It takes some work!
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Hi Laura,
I just read your post and absolutely love it! I’m also in search for inner happiness in 2015 and your 5 goals are absolutely awesome! Thanks for sharing!
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So glad it resonated! Would love to hear how your happiness journey goes. Check back in 3 months, for 3 more happiness initiatives to try.
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As we’ve been through a lot of heartbreak over the last few years, I am on my own personal quest to find happiness on a daily basis, so I just loved this post! I particularly appreciate that you drew attention to removing negativity, as it’s one of the hardest things to do and yet one of the most valuable.
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I am so glad to hear of your own happiness journey. We’ll have to keep in touch to let me know how it goes, or if you have any insights!
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Wonderful post, Laura – especially Number 2. Thanks! This past year I’ve taken the time to listen to and act on my inner voice that I’ve ignored for so long. I’m much happier and more at peace. Thanks, also, for following my blog. I hope that sometimes I can bring a smile or a laugh to your day.
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So glad to hear it Kath!
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How timely…you should read my column. http://www.dnaindia.com/lifestyle/comment-positive-mondays-why-you-should-make-a-new-year-s-resolution-2046062
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What a wonderful article! I especially liked this quote:
Thomas Carlye was asked, how do I make the world a better place. To which, the witty man replied, “Take care of yourself and we will have one less rascal to worry about”.
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What a great blog! My mom always had the same wish and I’m right there with you – it starts from within. I loo forward to learning more 😀
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Absolutely – mothers know best! Would love to hear how it goes, Laura.
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I love this and I need to write this down! Happiness is definitely a big priority in my life and this helped me out, thanks!
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So glad to hear it Helen. It would be wonderful if you keep us updated on how it goes!
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Great blog post! I think we all manage to magically forget that being happy is the most important thing in life.
We may think that we need a new telly, or more sex, or any number of other things, but the key to happiness is knowing what you need and being content with everything else.
I was going to disagreed with your approach to more happiness because a set of rules and a reigeme to follow doesn’t feel condussive to increasing happiness. But on reflection, your aims boil down to: Don’t dwell on bad stuff, concentrate on good stuff and meditate (at least in part to reinforce the first two) 🙂
Good luck and…
HAPPY Christmas and a HAPPY new year
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Thank you so much for sharing your take! Hope you have a lovely holiday season also.
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Great blog. this made my day. thanks alot
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I am SO glad to hear it!
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This is definitely going to the top of my New Year Resolution list, and it’d easy to remember 🙂 .
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Awesome! Would love it if you keep me posted on how it’s going.
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Would definitely maybe give an update in April, 3months in should be a good milestone to look forward to.
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Wonderful – sounds great, Ruby! I plan to post 3 new happiness ideas every 3 months.
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Hi
As a general rule Happiness has always been a misnomer for me. The two authors I found illuminating on the subject is Manfred Ketz De Fries and Victor Frankl. I have in chasing this dragon found out that the concept of Frankl that happiness is an Paradoxical intent of other behaviors the best possible solution to creating HAPPINESS.
I see you read my Blogs and Meditation and happiness is concepts I love exploring. Herewith one that you might have missed.
https://conradkotze.wordpress.com/2014/12/20/why-i-like-routine-and-discipline/
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Thanks Conrad – looking forward to reading your post.
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Hugh Mackay, Australian social researcher and psychologist, offers an interesting argument about ‘how the pursuit of happiness can make you miserable’ – this is the title of chapter 2 in his 2013 book ‘The Good Life’. I highly recommend this read to anyone involved in the pursuit of happiness!
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Thanks Veronique – I will check out the book!
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Great, inspirational ideas. I would certainly like to give them a try!
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Awesome! Will have to keep us posted how they go.
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Yeah, will do 🙂
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Great post. I know that gratitude is a key but I’m terrible at it! I aim too high and don’t “count” the smaller things. Grateful we have the chance to try again and again!
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❤ So true.
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Reblogged this on Camila Bousquet and commented:
A great idea I’ll pick up on!
2015 will definitely be about being happier
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Thank you for sharing, Camila!
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This was my goal also “to be happy” for the better half of 2014. It is one of the best personal goals one can set, good luck with yours 🙂
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Wonderful – what are some of the nuggets of wisdom you can send this way?
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Love this idea! Ill be joinig you on this one. Cheers to a happier future!
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Awesome Camila! Will have to check in to let me know how it goes!
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Good advice, is anyone interested in taking some crazy relatives off my hands? I would be much happier. LOL
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Thank you, Laura. The three steps to happiness are easily to remember. Great blog. Thanks,
Dale
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So glad you enjoyed, Dale!
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